Today we talked with Bangkok Matching, Thailand’s leading and longest running High-End Dating and Matchmaking Service Agency on their opinions and advice on the DOs and DON’Ts when dating “proper/decent” Thai ladies in Thailand.
Whenever there’s a conversation between a Thai lady and a western man, many may already put a mark on the Thai lady by thinking she must be a bargirl or a gold digger. It doesn’t matter where you met because these Thai girls can be anywhere in Thailand. Whether you meet this guy online or meet at a café, where you exchange a few messages online for a few days or weeks. They might think is she using google translate? Or why is her English so good? Today we talked with Bangkok Matching, a reputable high end dating and matchmaking service agency in Thailand on this area, and hopefully these dating tips will be the key to help those western guys know that maybe they have found a normal, proper and decent Thai girl here in Thailand and not some bargirl after all.
Many Thai single girls are now more open to western men. Not all Thai girls are looking for Thai men anymore. They believe that these westerners can be more romantic, so they treat them as special. Also, when dealing with royalty or meeting someone trustworthy. Thai girls all believe that westerners can be more loyal to them than Thai men. Many of the single ladies we know have been heartbroken numerous times by Thai guys who disrespect them. Furthermore, when we consider single Thai ladies falling for single westerners. You might wonder if this will ever work out because of the linguistic and cultural differences. Bangkok Matching frequently receive inquiries from our western clients about the cultural differences and what they should be aware of before meeting these lovely Thai single ladies. Nobody wants to ruin a first date, which is why western men should do their research before meeting a Thai girl they met online or offline. They must understand what to say and how to act around those Thai girls.
When Bangkok Matching talks about “single Thai ladies”, we must first define the type of Thai girls we are referring to. We understand that many westerners believe that all Thai girls are the same, but this is not the case. There are many decent proper Thai women out there who are intelligent, well-educated, and, of course, know what they are doing when it comes to communicating with westerners. They are not here for an English lesson, a one-night stand, or an FWB relationship. Many Thai single ladies seek genuine decent westerners with whom to form genuine relationships because they prefer westerners to Thai men.
In terms of this Thai dating culture tips, Bangkok Matching is here to help western men be prepared for whatever comes their way when looking to date a decent Thai single lady. We will share the Dos and Don’ts when Dating in Thailand with proper decent Thai ladies, or a survival dating guidelines for Westerners to follow.
Assume you met this girl via friends or via dating apps or online somewhere and have been communicating with her for a few weeks when you begin to develop feelings for her. Her English was excellent, you had no difficulty communicating via text or phone, and you are confident that she is the real deal. You both feel it’s time to meet, but you’re not sure what to expect because you’ve only been communicating via messages. So, where do we begin? Let us guide you through the 5 Dos and 5 Don’ts dating tips below.
Do Your Homework on Cultural Differences
This is the most important dating tip for you to be aware of. Thai and Western cultures are vastly different from what you would do on your first date in your home country. You might think, I’ve done this before, and it’s nothing too difficult but perhaps not in Thailand, and not for these Thai girls. There are some things you can do with Western girls that you cannot do with Thai girls. Expect to see temples and enter a Thai traditional environment as Thai culture is very important to all Thai families. Before you enter her world, make sure you understand the culture.
Do Greet Her in a traditional Thai manner
Thai girls do not greet each other with handshakes or cheek kisses. As for Westerners, it’s completely normal for you to be hugging, touching, and shaking hands with someone for the first time. Thai girls, on the other hand, keep their hands to themselves and greet with words, smiles, and the Wai (Thai traditional way of greeting one another). Make sure you understand this traditional way of greeting because if you don’t know the Wai greeting, Thai girls may feel awkward and confused. The traditional greeting will instill respect in them, and it is far preferable to greet her in the Thai traditional manner because she will perceive that you are open to Thai culture.
Do Wear Appropriate Clothes and Respect Her
Thai girls are very feminine, and they like to look good wherever they go. When it comes to fashion trends, they take them very seriously. When we think about the first date, everyone wants to look their best because first impressions are everything. What a person wears and the type of fashion they prefer can reveal a lot about them. So, show her some respect by making an effort to look nice for your first date with her. Thai girls understand the holiday clothing theme, but not everyone prefers to see western guys dressed in summer shorts or t-shirts as if they were about to visit the beach. It’s not just about respecting the lady, but also the places in Bangkok and the environment around you.
Do Pay and Be Decent, but Don’t Make Dumb Decisions for Yourself
Westerners are accustomed to sharing on their first date, but in Thai culture, the guys are expected to pay for everything. But, on your first date, make sure you know what you’re doing. Set your expectations for how you want this relationship to be. If you start big and spoil her with an expensive restaurant or high-end rooftop bar on your first date, be prepared to do the same on all subsequent dates. Some girls will expect more from you if you start showing them that you have a lot to offer. We’re not saying you can’t give her anything. However, we want her to fall in love with your heart as well as your money. So, start small and build up with positive and diverse experiences. When you want to give her your all and know she deserves more from you, feel free to do so when the time comes.
Do Make Plans for Your Second Date
When it comes to relationships, Thai girls prefer not to waste their time. She is interested in knowing and comprehending the status of her relationship. So, if you enjoy meeting her in person and like what you see, compliment her and provide feedback on your first date. This will give her more confidence in being with you, and if she enjoys being with you in person, more future meetings will be possible. This will cause her to open up to you more and allow you to enter her world, leading you both to the next step faster.
Don’t Expect Skin Shipment on Your First Date
This one is critical for western men to be aware of. On your first date, you should not expect any SKIN SHIP. In other words, you are not permitted to touch her in public. Shaking hands with foreigners become norm in Thailand, everyone knows and understands it’s the form of greeting for foreigners, but kissing her on the cheeks or lips during your first meeting is too much, too soon. And there shouldn’t be any hugging or any other physical inappropriate touching in public or private. These will make Thai girls feel very uneasy, and they may feel unsafe and pressed on their first date. Keep in mind that you must keep your hands to yourself regardless of the outcome if you don’t want to frighten her on your first dates, no skinship of any kind. We all know that good things take time; don’t rush her; be patient, and she will be ready for you in the next meeting when she feels more confident in you.
Don’t Force Her to Have Sex or Invite Her Back to Your Place
Many western men believe that ‘Thai girls’ will agree to sex. However, as previously stated, not all Thai girls are the same. If you are looking for a good decent Thai lady, do not expect this from her; it is extremely disrespectful to these ladies when you expect them to sleep with you after your first date. If you are not serious and expect to have fun after your first date, don’t waste your time with these girls; instead, go for bargirls. Respect them by not wasting their time, and she will not waste yours. Furthermore, some Thai ladies take a long time to say ‘YES’ to sex, so it is up to you and your partner to communicate about your sex life. However, putting pressure on your girlfriend will only make her feel uncomfortable, and you may be pushing her away without realizing it. When you want a strong and decent relationship with a good Thai lady, take it slowly.
Don’t Disrespect Her by Forcing Her to Choose Between Family and Boyfriend
Thai girls have strong bonds with their families. If you get the chance to meet her parents and friends, please be pleased because it shows she is serious and wants you to be a part of her inner circle. So, appreciate it and shift your focus from the negative to the positive. You may feel nervous or under pressure, but if you’re a good guy who respects her family, they’ll quickly accept you into theirs. Keep an open mind and learn about their culture; don’t put her in a position where she has to choose between you and her family; Thais don’t work that way. Thai girls place a high value on both their family and their boyfriends. So, make sure you understand her and don’t dismiss her.
Don’t Be Like You Were Back in Your Country
Everyone is unique and has a way of taking care of themselves. Don’t forget that Thai ladies take their hygiene and appearance very seriously. Thailand is a hot country with no cold weather like the rest of the world. As a result, you should shower more than 1-2 times per day because hot weather causes people to sweat and your clothes to stink very easily. Wear clean, fresh clothes every time and avoid wearing the same outfit twice. Thai people shower at least two times per day because it keeps them cool and they prefer to stay clean and fresh all the time.
Don’t Complain About Her Home Country
We understand you’re here in Thailand for the short term, or even the long term for some. However, if there is anything that makes you unhappy about this country, try not to complain too much about it. Every location on the planet has both a good and a bad spot. But no one wants to hear you complain about the country they call home. You can discuss it with her, but don’t hammer home the negative aspects of her home country too hard. It all comes down to respect and understanding the differences between your country and hers. Keep things consistent and don’t overthink them because she might get upset. She might feel like you are disrespecting her and she will start to feel bad about knowing you. As for this Thai girls will leave you and they will not want to waste more of their time with you.
Finally, meeting people from different backgrounds, religions, languages, and cultures can be challenging for anyone. It’s all part of learning and meeting the right one, male or female. It is easier to understand the difference between you and your future partner as soon as you open your heart and mind. We’re not saying it’ll be easy, but it won’t be too difficult, so why not allow yourself to try something new and different? These Thai dating culture tips, however, are just starting points for western men when meeting a Thai single lady. As most of us know, Thai people are extremely friendly and can be quite relaxed when meeting new people. So, if you prefer to connect with them and give your heart a chance to meet a decent Thai lady, Bangkok Matching recommends you follow these simple Thai dating culture tips and you will not regret having a Thai girlfriend or wife as your future partner.
Enjoy your search of love journey with our lovely Thai ladies. We wish you all best of luck.